How to thrive through your life's many transitions
This thing called life is always evolving. We are never stagnant. We are also transitioning from one space to another. Some moves are subtle with very little fan fair. While others come in and go out with a BOOM!
Think about the moment you realized that you were an adult. Do you remember when you made your career choice? What about when you made the decision to use use your skills, talent and expertise to start a business?
Your life's transitions are the story of your evolution. It is your story to define. It's your story to tell. It is also your experience to celebrate. The complicated, difficult transitions gave you wisdom. While others brought you joy, and provided a good reason to celebrate. Your life is evolving in wondrous ways.
Unfortunately, life's transitions are often unexpected. They show up at the most inopportune moments. The also sometimes negatively impact our life's course. Life's transitions can throw our goals so far off track that we forget where we were going. How do you find your way back when this happens? How do you keep going and keep pushing?
It is one thing to survive life's transitions but it is another leap to thrive through one. Let's discuss a few ways to move through challenges, barriers and obstacles with zeal:
Living in the now simply means making sure that your awareness is completely centered on the here and now. It means that you are not worrying about the future or stuck thinking about the past. When you live in the now, you experiencing life, real-time. You are where life is happening right now, moment-by-moment.
Plan to fully appreciate the moments of the day - all 86,400 seconds of the sights, the sounds, the smells, the emotions, the wins and the losses - with gratitude.
"Sometimes the present moment brings experiences of love, kindness, creativity, beauty, and insight. In those moments no one needs to ask why it’s good to live in the now." ~Dr. Deepak Chopra
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Simply put, focusing on one thing at a time means you will undoubtedly get more done. Productivity at its' core is about getting the most out of your time. When you are able to thwart distractions during a transition period in your life, you make room to concentrate deeply on the task at hand - succeeding.
Being focused will help you increase productivity and bring about better results, faster and with greater precision. Industry Influencers are people of creativity, they are driven by ideas and relish in innovation. Staying focused on doing what matters most, first, is the key to their success.
Laughter is really the best medicine. Laughter reduces stress. Laughter is good for your heart and your brain. It has been known to extend life, literally lowers mortality rate.
In Navajo culture, there is something called the First Laugh Ceremony. Tradition dictates that each Navajo baby is kept on a cradle board until he or she laughs for the first time. Then the tribe throws a celebration in honor of the child’s first laugh, which is considered to be his or her birth as a social being. We are not only Homo sapiens, the creature who thinks. We are Homo guffawus, the creature who laughs.
The key is to use laughter as a coping mechanism. When you are moving through a transition, look to laugh your way through to the other side. If you are feeling stressed, humor will help you reassess the moment from a positive perspective. Maintaining an affirming viewpoint will have a positively impact your motivation, creativity and thinking.
The key ingredient in any transition is change. Yes, we all know change can be difficult. It's difficult in part because we don't know what awaits us on the other side, and the unknown is scary. Change is also hard because our brains are hard-wired to do the same thing, over and over. Our brains like repetition, it appreciate habits without attachment to whether it is good for your or not.
The changes in your life are proof that you are evolving. Your transition from one space to another is the evidence needed to prove that you are learning and growing. Here are 5 more reasons why change works for your highest good:
Your assumptions about life are challenged when you experience change. The essence of who you are is tested,. Your opinions, your mindset and your belief system all demand new ways to articulate them. When you embrace new experiences, new perspectives emerge. This enlightenment opens new windows of opportunity.
When moving through a transition, your mind is forced to expand in ways never previously experienced. More often, you are pleasantly surprised to find your courage, your strength and the hidden abilities to do more than just cope.
The change experience arms you with the confidence to accept and manage the next transition, with comfort and ease. Before you know it, you will find that you actually flourish in new situations. As you move from one transition to the next, your confidence muscle strengthens. You will have proven that you can not only handle change but you can thrive in the midst of it all.
Change discloses who you really are to the world. It displays the things that are most important to you. Your character, habits and values are brought to the forefront of your existence. During a time of transition, your core values will be your guide through to success.
Trust yourself. Let your values and what's important to you be your guide. Value yourself to do a gut check to make sure that your choices are aligned with the essence of who you are. We often look to Google to give us answers, but many of your answers are already deeply embed in you, all you have to do is check in with your core values. Click here for a more complete list of 500+ core values to get started.
Self-care is the daily practice of maintaining a healthy relationship with yourself - of course this is the foundation for conveying that same energy to others. I say that to make it clear that caring for yourself is not selfish, in any way. Actually, paying enough attention to well-being is about preparing yourself to care for others.
Implementing self-care activities consistently is critical for your physical, mental and emotional well-being...let me tell you how:
- Know your worth: Maintaining a healthy relationship with yourself increases positive emotions and boost self-confidence. Your needs are important too.
- A healthy work-life balance: Setting professional and personal boundaries will help you stop overextending yourself. Listening to your mind, body and spirit will help you stay sharp, motivated and healthy.
- Manage acute and chronic stress: Healthy stress can remind you to complete an overdue task, meet a deadline and get to an appointment on time. Continued stress and anxiety will negatively impact your life. Smart self-care will get that stress in check and reinforce the healthy work-life balance to thrive.
Self-care improves your mood, it boosts your energy and uplifts the confidence needed to get through your next life's transition - with style and grace. ~Andrea A Callahan
When life hits you hard or throws you off track, take a moment to take a deep breath, do an assessment of what's really going on. Try not to react until you have taken some time for self-care, so you can address the transition with calm, clear and concise thoughts. The decisions must be less about your emotional response to the transition but more rooted in reality in order to plan effective for next steps.
It is to your benefit to always have your tribe of friends, colleagues and trusted advisors on deck to help you navigate transitions. This trusted group of confidants should be good listeners, understand your options and offer you the sound advice needed to help you to make choices for your highest good.
I would also advise a separate group of professionals, mentors and leaders to guide you in your business decisions. Your family and friends may not have the knowledge or expertise to help you make critical business decisions. It may be more effective to join a mastermind group in order to problem-solve, process and plan a course of action with experienced professionals.
If you're interested, I lead the Industry Influencer Mastermind group, you are welcome to apply here.
Don't be afraid to ask for help when you need it. Thriving through difficult transitions is possible when you are standing on a solid foundation, prepared for inevitable changes. ~Andrea A. Callahan
If you are like me, you have experienced and survived many transitions in life. Many unexpected, others didn't serve us well while others simply didn't go as planned. My goal with the article is let you know that you are not alone. We all have fallen, we have stumbled, we have misstepped and we have lived to laugh about it. You are not alone. I hope you are inspired to seek more information, guidance and a helping hand when necessary. Industry Influencers give support and as equally as important, they receive support.
I'd love to hear from you. Please share your comments below. I am looking forward to the dialogue.